EBM deserves a page all it’s own. The only thing I spend more time doing (since she can not breast feed) is loving Rose…. notice I didn’t say, sleeping!? The 2 are intrinsically linked.
One of the neonatologists early on said I’d only be able to maintain a supply to feed Rose for about 12 weeks in NICU. Thank goodness I didn’t believe him (and I did provide feedback to a NICU improvement committee that he should be gently asked to stop speaking to mothers about something he clearly doesn’t understand). I’ve come across many many posts on the internet from mothers who manage to express enough BM for their children even beyond the one year mark but it takes a lot of energy that for another mother may have been spent better elsewhere… I agree with a lot of wise women who say you do what will keep you mentally healthy so you can look after your child to the best of your ability and giving Rose breast milk is what has kept me mentally healthy and reduced my worry. It reassures me a lot to be able to do it. Thank goodness I could / can. However sometimes I get a little inkling of a feeling that it’ll be great when she doesn’t need it anymore… At the moment I express for 40 minutes 4 times a day, yielding ~650mls … in the early days it was 30 minutes 8 times a day, yielding about a litre. Without a baby to stimulate my milk production it has been a slow decline in volume but I could definitely have committed more time to it if I only had one child and less medical appointments to attend.
Anyway… I’m going to work on another advice page as there are some things I learned along the way that were useful… so watch this space NICU mums 😉